How a Life Coach Can Help Me

Most likely every one of us, sooner or later, will struggle with a rut they are in. This is especially true when it comes to setting goals, and how to stay focused on your dreams and aspirations. A Life Coach can help you create a path to more clarity and purpose. You already know what you want, so the Life Coach will not give you answers, but rather will be an active listener. In the process that follows, questions will be posed that can lead to self-discovery of your issue or problem.

One important skill that a Life Coach offers is the ability to draw out the best in you, to help you concentrate on your objectives, not moderate your responses or psychoanalyze you. As I mentioned on my website, a Life Coach is not a therapist, mentor, or counselor. On the contrary, he will help you get back on track toward your goals and dreams. 

In the reminder of this article, you will learn how a Life Coach can help you, what to expect during the coaching sessions, and how to set up a plan to find the answers you have been looking for.

The Ways a Life Coach Helps

A Life Coach tunes in to the who, what, where, and when. This is similar to an unbiased journalist who pays attention to all the minute details. This is also known as “attentive listening,” as the coach is not only hearing, but is paying attention to the clients tone of voice, emotional expressions, and the level of energy displayed. Unlike a good detective, it is not just the facts, but more about a personal engagement with the client.

The Life Coach hears what the person is saying, but is even more acutely aware of the spoken (and unspoken) words that are implied. As the authors of Co-Active Coaching states:

Everything in coaching depends on listening – especially listening with the client’s agenda in mind…When another person is totally with you, interested in every word, eager to empathize, you feel known and understood. They feel safer and more secure, as well, and can begin to trust. It is why listening is so important to coaching.

What Can I Expect From a Life Coach?

One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is “how can a Life Coach help me to find my purpose?” Or, more specifically, “how do I fix this problem?,” or “how can I manage my time better?,” or “how do I set realistic goals?” All the answers to these questions can be found within each and every person, but they may lack the skills to know how to access the solutions.

It is the responsibility of a professional Life Coach to facilitate the coaching process by being an active listener. Coaching is not therapy, nor is it counseling or a mentorship program. It is a relationship between the client and the coach, working as a “team” to create action steps to accomplish the desired results. If a client is having problems that can only be resolved through counseling or therapy, the coach will be up front and recommend the best alternative to what he has to offer.

A Life Coach is somebody who encourages others to make, meet and surpass personal and professional goals. If you are exploring some of life’s difficulties, a Life Coach can help the client to realize his or her potential, and how to get there. The primary focus is to lead others to fulfill their individual destiny while they establish the goals necessary to navigate throughout the journey.

In the coach-client relationship, the best interests of the client will always be kept at the forefront. You will always be given the undivided attention of the coach as you are exploring all the options that are available in each coaching session. You will be challenged with some hard questions, and encouraged to do some deep soul searching. This may be difficult at times, but the rewards can be extremely fruitful.  

During each coaching session, the main focus will be on taking responsibility for the issue at hand, creating action steps, and following through until the client feels the task is complete. This will bolster his or her self-improvement, make corrections or changes, and to gain more clarity. The process is always forward- moving and future-centered. 

Finding Answers to Your Questions

Your experience with a Life Coach will reveal one or more of the following:

  • You’ll make sense of how to find solutions to unsettled issues.
  • The coaching plan originates from you; you are in control while the coach guides.
  • Life coaching addresses your whole life, and helps you discover how to live by your convictions, morals, ethics, expectations, and dreams.
  • The coach-client relationship is synergistic, moving together as the life coach gives you a chance to lead. It resembles a dance, one person leading, then the other.

If any of the above strikes a positive chord in you, then now is the time to work with a life coach. You will also know that a life coach can help you if you are ready to take a step in a different direction or make an adjustment in your job. Or, do you need to be equipped to make better decisions, set goals, or establish life objectives?

What is Your Plan?

What is your plan for your “wild and valuable life?” That’s what life coaching is – a discovery of what makes you come alive. If you don’t set out on a path to reach for your dreams, by what means will you ever know you can accomplish them. The collaboration between coach and client, and the relationship that develops, is the key to creating new opportunities and changes. It is sometimes referred to as “co-active coaching.”

The client goes to each life coaching session with a plan, and the coach is merely a conduit to help achieve his or her objectives. A Life Coach is not a specialist who knows all the answers, but rather a concerned professional who presents the system, questions, and actions for you to discover the positive improvements you want of life. However, in the event that you do not recognize what those things are, a Life Coach can help facilitate the process of finding “it.”

In order to grow towards your new plan, a Life Coach will pose  thought-provoking questions similar to the following:

  • What are you enthusiastic about?
  • What’s another way of taking a look at this?
  • What are your next steps?
  • What will this accomplish?
  • What might make this easy?

Additional Thoughts:

Here are some additional thoughts to consider before working with a Life Coach. It is wise to schedule a complimentary session before you make a commitment. Make sure that you and the Life Coach are a good fit, that it is comfortable and challenging at the same time. Keep in mind that life coaching needs to be about moving forward and seeking positive changes. A Life Coach is prepared to help you discover your answers, and never force theirs upon you. And most importantly, be prepared, willing, and ready to pursue a new adventure. 

Allan Siegel 

Life Coach


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