No matter where you are in life, you have probably asked yourself this question, “What is my purpose?” Or maybe you are wondering why things are not going according to the way you planned.
Do you want to make changes in the direction your career is taking you? Or, how do you follow your true passion and get on a path to new ventures.
Regardless of your position in life, everyone has passions and dreams in their heart. You were made with a purpose, a destiny to fulfill! So, let’s take a serious look at what you are passionate about, those things that are a driving force in your life, or perhaps, what you most want to do if there were no limitations.
In order to do this, I challenge you to make a list of your top 10 passions, which will lead to clarifying your true vision and purpose(s). Be specific, and do not write in generalities.
Building Your List
Make a list of 10 things you most appreciate doing. Here are some questions to get you started:
- What lights you up inside?
- What makes you feel alive?
- What needs to be a major part of your life for you to be satisfied?
- What sorts of things cause you to lose all sense of direction, forgetting about time passing while you’re doing them?
Set aside some time to consider some different things you’d get a kick out of doing. Maybe it’s something you always wanted or needed to do.
We’re searching for the “phenomenal” here, so take the plunge! Pull out all the stops, and write it all down.
Now ask yourself this question: “Which items on my list truly come from my heart and/or make the juices of enthusiasm flow?” Keep going over the list point by point until you are certain which ones resonate with your core values and will lead you to your life purpose.
What Is a Purpose?
Many individuals ask this question, “Is there a reason (a true purpose) for my life?” The short answer is that everybody has a purpose. The best answer is that it doesn’t need to take long to realize what it is. Your purpose is alive and well, and it’s living inside you, regardless of whether you know it or not.
Definition of life purpose: It is the objective or intention that you are striving toward. It is the picture you have of yourself – the kind of person you want to be or the kind of life you want to lead.
One way to discover your purpose is through past experiences. An exercise that can be very helpful is to list 10-12 examples of times in your life when you knew you were doing something on purpose. Make sure you don’t over analyze it, just write it down.
Now that you have made your list, pick your top 4-5 and describe each one briefly. In doing this, ask yourself the following questions:
- What was essential to your sense of being on purpose?
- What about this experience was richly satisfying?
- What was of value to you?
Write down the key words and phrases that embody these experiences. You will probably notice that there is a common theme. You can now write a brief statement of your life purpose in no more than 2 or 3 sentences, using the exercise above as a guideline.
Here is an example of a client’s life purpose statement:
“To become the best I can at that which I have been gifted with, not missing out or taking for granted the opportunity to use my talents.”
Each person’s life purpose statement is unique, and will align with his or her direction and intentions.
Additional thoughts to Consider:
- A purpose statement is used privately to create your goals and your life.
- When you are “on purpose” you live from your being/core self.
- When you are “off purpose” life feels less fulfilling, and you become a human doing instead of a human being.
Going Forward: Using Your Purpose Statement As a Guide
Knowing one’s life purpose is a real benefit when used as a guide to make choices and decisions that lead to greater and more authentic happiness and fulfillment.
How do you apply or use your statement?
- Internalize it
- Intentional reflection
- Regular affirmation
- Learn to listen to it’s voice
- Assessment (this is a compass, not criticism)
- What in your life aligns with your purpose statement?
- What in you life is a little off?
- Is there anything in your life that is way off?
There are many good books available to learn and develop your life purpose. Here are just a couple of my suggestions:
• Living on Purpose by Dan Millman
• Life on Purpose by Victor Strecher
If you want to write your purpose statement, here are a couple of other books that will walk you through the process:
• Personal Statements & Statements of Purpose by Daniel Berman
Finding your purpose can be a tedious undertaking, but with the help of a Life Coach, the process can be done with more ease. Allowing a trained professional partner with you on this journey can alleviate many of the struggles, and ultimately lead to clarity and understanding through self-discovery.
If you want my help, you can sign up for a complimentary coaching consultation.
I hope this has been helpful, and I invite you to either contact me by email with any comments or questions, or jot down your thoughts below. I will do my best to respond within 48 hours.
Allan Siegel, Life Coach